Virtual Detachments

Dating is not to be hidden. If you´ve done it so, someone or something has been limiting both genders and, besides, someone else could be hurt or feel upset.

If you are old enough, if you live your own adult life, in your own house, there´s no point in dating secretly. If you´re doing so, be sure you are not risking yourself or having another person under a risk.

Married people should not be dating.

Singles who lived under their parents care or roof, should respect parents role and authority (They do it so to protect you, somehow).

Nowadays several things are done online, I will not tell but, if you are having a virtual affair online, if you are dating a married one online -even sleeping with a married- you are under a risk, you are risking yourself (and probably other persons you think you´ve loved).

Today, by the way, I heard some is wooing at JL. That man was telling how the “news” was going on and, of course, there was something going on, same way Christians and unbelievers do their things. Are you sending pictures to be admired or poked, online?

A couple of years ago a friend of mine told me: “She likes you! See how many “likes” she is sending to EACH of yours pictures”... And he was right! She and I had an affair but, when that ended up, she asked me to remove HER pictures from FB and there´s no way to know what she did with mine, because I removed all those she sent -to me- showing her bathing suit and those where she wanted me to see...

Are you aware of this I´m saying?

Once the affair is ended up, both partners have to pull things back, there´s a moment of light or big crisis and both would claim for “privacy”, either online or in the eyes of their public. Could things be erased and finally hid?

There´s a self-reproach and, of course, no one likes his / her pictures to be seen in the company of the one they have left (or hurt). They stupidly talk back and insist on that and, the good thing is, the more they do that, they´re helping you to be healed if you were hurt, left, cheated on.

Believed or not, you can monitor (or guess) part of the things your chosen one is doing on line. There are “private” messages, SMS and more but, in social media, there are things than can be viewed (and prevented).

There´s a remorse: “Oh! I failed!” or “I was hurt” but you are not naive to know the wrong you did to be wronged. Do you?

Be thankful! Sometimes you need something like day to avoid committing the same mistake (more than twice).

“Delete my pictures!” Sometimes it is an order or a kind petition but, when you give a thing: Will you ask THOSE things back?

If those pictures were a wedding ring, I would agree! Particularly if this belong to your grandmother, mother or cost you an eye. Ask it back! Get it, sell it or throw it into a lake, but don´t ask those undeserved things: Just because you gave them with love... with you all!.

Someone who plans to keep his / her life on, would like to ask you to clean all your records. She or he wants that life clean (just to avoid gossiping or ill spirited reactions or just public censorship).

Give them all you don´t need!

Luk 6:30 Give to everyone who asks you for something. When someone takes something that is yours, don't ask for it back.

Though, don´t erase the lessons you´ve learned. These might help you to avoid turning your back to similar mistakes (or sins).

You cannot control what others do, but you are self-controlled on your own things.

They have the right to keep their things going on and don´t let them rule over yours (this includes also me).

A.T.